In life, it’s easy to know which way to take when you know what you want. Are you going to push through a project or not? Do you have to leave your work for another one or not? Should you proceed with your master’s degree or not yet? What course should you take up in college?
Asking questions to yourself is good. The dangerous game is when you don’t know what you want to be and who do you want to be in life. Which way to go when you don’t know where to go? Sure you can walk into a direction and let it lead you to wherever. But what if you actually want to land somewhere.. you know you want to land somewhere you like but you don’t know where it is. How do you go on when you don’t know what you really want?
It’s a hard question. I know.
I also found it too hard to answer. It is mind-boggling to reflect. Until, one day, one of my mentors asked me to take down the questions he wanted me to ask myself when I am alone in my room:
- Who do you want to be?
- What do you want to happen in 10 years?
- What do you want to become?
- List at least 3 things you want to achieve.
- If you are facing your grandchild right now, what image of you would you like him to remember forever?
- Imagine yourself on your deathbed. Lay down and close your eyes. List at least 5 things you could have done in your life. (First off, I don’t want to be on a death bed anytime soon, but yeah, this question hit my head)
Whenever I find myself in times of difficulty choosing between good options in life, I try my best to consider and re-think of my goals. Do they coincide? If it’s a no, then we have a little problem. If it is a yes, the next question is, is the right thing to do? Will it benefit others, too? It’s good to make sure no person’s dignity is harmed.
Before I end this, I’m sharing this:
Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.
-Robert H. Schuller